questions regarding boyfriends feelings for ex-wife?

by **DoyleG** » Tue Jul 07, 2009 1:30 pm

My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and i moved in with him . while moving my things in i found naked photos of his ex wife i'm not talking one or two i'm talking a book full. I also found a box with every card and every love letter she ever wrote him. Now I was also previously married and he made me get rid of everything that reminded me for my ex husband and i did. now i find out that he has this crap laying around the house where he asked me to live. I don't know how to confront him on this because he would flip out that i found them. I have been wondering for the last 2 years why he keeps saying things about how his marriage hurt him bad, he even thought about ending his life when she filled for divorce. If he feels this way why would he keep things like that around? i don't know what to do with this, it bugs the f**k out of me that he has these things!!

by **Davis_Benito** » Fri Jul 10, 2009 4:15 pm

You to just be honest. Tell him you found the stuff and you don't like him telling you to get rid of your stuff when he kept his. If he flips out fine but it sounds like he needs to take his own advice and move on.

by **CortezSydney** » Mon Jul 13, 2009 7:01 pm

He made you get rid of everthing your ex gave you? Burn all her pictures and letters. It's only fair. Do it while he's at work.Of course he still has feelings for his ex wife, particularly if she hurt him very badly. There is a lot of hurt there that still needs healing, and while he is working that out he will be quite attached to her.

by **Delaney_Robert** » Thu Jul 16, 2009 9:46 pm

looks like hes a hypocrite lol. you just need to confront him.. be like "you told me i needed to get rid of my stuff.. so i think its fair that you need to get rid of your stuff" then he'll be like "what are you talking about?" or something then you can say that you found them

by **CurKe426** » Mon Jul 20, 2009 12:31 am

I think you need to tell him, Tell him you were cleaning and came across this bull shi... See what he has to say. I know he may say oh I forgot about those sorry let me get rid of them now. This is very wrong I would be mad for days. When me and my now hubby got together he told me to change my cell and I did then he got calls from ex saying how they missed him and then I told him change your number he said I need it for work. That was fine then a girl called saying I miss you . Then he changed his cell number humm. I still wonder. But I know it's nothing because he is always with me and doesn't talk to anyone. Put it down let him no this is a big no no. I have to give it to you waiting this long I would of been tearing stuff up lol making a big mess.

by **Dawson_Beverley** » Thu Jul 23, 2009 3:17 am

If it bugs you so much why ar you still there? You have chosen to move in with him without benefit of marriage and you expect him to behave as if here were married to you. Why should he? He is your boyfriend, not your husband, you don't own him. You made a choice to move in with him, you can make a choice to move out, and you are still there.