I think that going to get counseling at Church would be a great idea, a great place to start. Whats happened to your relationship is quite common when two people have been together for a long time. Its normal for things to be harder. I firmly believe that any two people can be together forever if they are only willing to work things out and commit, and that no matter how perfect two people might be for eachother, there will always be problems and things wont always be easy. One mistake you made was moving in together.. statistics prove without a doubt that cohabitation is harmful to relationships. If doubles your chances of getting a divorce if you do ever end up marrying. It sounds like you guys are too wrapped up in eachothers lives without being married, and that causes problems like the ring thing. Also, I think you guys need some space, besides getting counseling together, space is a good thing because it helps you stop taking eachother for granted and will help spark some passion back into your lives in the time you do spend together. the things you do together.. seeing movies, going on a picnic or fishing, out to eat, to an amusement park.. it doesnt really matter what they are, but I just recommend that you dont live together until your married and that you try to spend some time apart so you can appreciate eachother better. thats all the input I can think of.. good luck!