by SkinnerP284
» Mon Aug 06, 2007 11:25 am
I just recently finished my first year at a local college, and I met my sort of ex girlfriend there. We were together for 11 months. The reason why I say sort of ex girlfriend is because we aren't quite broken up. What's happening is she has felt like I smothered her and I've been really jealous, not about guys but about her not spending time with me. We are taking a break 3 weeks before we get back on campus and she wants to try and see if things will get better on campus. In retrospect I realized I did smother her and I did a lot of stupid things. Trust wasn't the issue, it was more selfishness than anything. The relationship didn't start like that either. We hung out a lot, but we both had our own group of friends who we hung out with. At the end of the spring semester we really grew apart from our friends and just hung out with each other too much. And that's my fault completely, I was being selfish. I know she still has feelings for me because she's told me so, but she said she is unsure right now. I told her that she means a lot to me and I'm not giving up on "us". I really want to get back with her because she means a lot to me. I really do love her and I want things to get better between us. When we get back on campus she said she wants to go on dates and if things feel right we can go from there. It's hard on me right now because there are still 3 weeks left of summer, and I don't have much to do to keep me busy so my mind is always on why we aren't together. I know I need to keep my mind off of it and let things situate themselves a bit. I've made some changes in my life to became the person she fell in love with because that's the better "me". I like that person better, and I honestly think I've become that person again. I just wanted to know is how I can sweep her off her feet again. Does it seem like she wants me back? Could the distance over this summer break also be to blame? She went to China for a whole month and we talked once because it was very hard for her to contact me. She said she enjoyed the space without me there, which is because I smothered her, but I think the space is partially to blame. She also lives 2.5 hours away and I can't really visit her. I really don't want to lose her, I think I can make things right. What are some things I should focus on? What are some things I should do to make things right between us? We still communicate a lot, so I try and keep a friendly casual conversation when we talk. Is that a good idea? Any feedback on what I should do and where I should go from here would be greatly appreciatedAlso, she said she is going to stay faithful to me throughout the break and what not. I did the same for her because I really couldn't see myself with someone else right nowI'm not trying to get back together with her right now, I think the break will ease tensions between us from the distance between us. Once we are back together I feel like things will be a lot easier on both of us. I'm giving her space and I'm going to try my best to work things out with her. Do you think it's worth the shot?